My 3-year old son is enrolled in preschool. He was fine in the first few days, until the last school day of the week. He now refuses to go to school, and if we are able to convince him, I need to stay in the classroom with him. Unless he sees me all the time, close enough for him to touch me, he starts crying.
So what needs to be done? What is the right thing to do?
I discussed all issues at home with my wife, and at school with his teachers and the school principal. Although they allow parents or guardians in the classroom, I know this is a practice that should not be encouraged.
After days of pondering, I came to conclude that my son is very attached to me now, more than ever. He is having a period of separation anxiety. If I force him to go to school, he may hate going to school because he is being forced. If I leave him in the classroom, he will cry and cry throughout the duration of the class, disrupting other students. He may feel abandoned, which is the last thing I want him to feel.
Having considered everything I could think of, this is what I am doing now. I bring him to school and stay with him. According to the principal, my son needs time to settle in. My work is affected, but he is my son, and school is important. I feel that since this is his first time in school, I should spare the time to help him settle down to his new routine, to make his experience in school memorable and fun.